The Unlikely Relationship Advise for a Thriving Partnership

What does the 2^nd law of thermodynamics have to do with your life? The 2^nd law states, “For a spontaneous process, the entropy of the universe increases.” What is entropy? Entropy is a tendency to more disorder, chaos, and loss of energy. In plain words, it means that if left unchecked, things tend to get worse, including relationships.

Now here is the good news. Add a CATALYST. Do you remember in chemistry class? Add a catalyst to a reaction that would not have originally happened and BOOM the reaction occurs at an exponential rate. I kept hearing the word COMPASSION today. I believe compassion is the CATALYST that is the softer, more yin, and overlooked aspect that will heal, revive, and create a more deep, loving and trusting relationship.

We often approach our problems with force such as fighting it, so it goes away. When we don’t get our needs met, or our partners have done something that doesn’t feel quite OK, our subconscious feels threatened or unsafe. The default response in the nervous system is to shut down or fight. Closing our hearts, giving our partners the cold treatment, or getting in a “me versus you” mentality is not healthy and leads to more ENTROPY in a relationship.

Humans are wired to focus on problems as a protective mechanism. But what if your reality is really 20% problems and 80% wonderful things? How can you see the entire reality of your life and focus on the 80% of wonderful things, shifting away from the feeling that 80% of your life are problems? Let’s practice COMPASSION as the CATALYST for a re-start.

Instead of fixating on NEGATIVE things:

-He doesn’t do thing things he promised

-She keeps nagging me

-He blames me for unfair things

-She does not respect me

-He always gets angry

-She is too sensitive

This fixation gets you more of what you don’t want. What we focus on, we get.

Instead think compassionate positive thoughts and watch the reality inside of you shift. This provides the CATALYST or activation energy for your relationship to start thriving. Here are some examples:

-My partner actually did this because they cared about me

-While my partner could learn more of my love language, they did the best they could to show love to me the way they know how.

-My partner should not have reacted this way, but I choose to believe it is not personal, they were about bit stressed today. Let me show them some love so they feel better after a bad day. (Watch how this type of compassion can shift the dynamic.).

-Just like how I would like to recharge after hard work, I realize my partner would like some of that as well. I will give them the space they need and trust they will be able to be present for me in a better way later.

-I choose to remind myself that my partner loves me. The more we emphasize what we want and already have, the universe will give you more of that. The magic is gentleness, tenderness, love, forgiveness and compassion. Watch how much more initiative and good will your partner will have towards you as you both live as a team in togetherness, trust and love. To sum it up: “Do to others as you would like them to do unto you.” Mat 7:12

If you are needing help with your relationships, healing past wounds or traumas that interfere with your life and health, please reach out to me, and we can come up with a plan of how to help you move forward and let go of the past so you can thrive in the present.

How to Let Go of Self Judgment and Feeling Stuck

I made this video for you. It's a short meditation you can follow along with some powerful NET techniques. These techniques help your body let go of ingrained belief patterns that do not benefit you. It's not enough to just know in your brain to not judge yourself. Sometimes you know in your brain the "good" affirmations, but can't help but feel strong emotions that bother you anyhow. That is why we need to reprogram your nervous system and body cell memory. This way your body/emotions will agree with your mind. Then you won't feel torn between how you want to feel, and not being able to get there.

In this video, you'll get to:
-release self judgement
-break the cycle of feeling stressed, stuck and unaccomplished
-release feelings of being paralyzed by too much on your plate
-release anger at yourself
-start getting un-stuck and gain momentum in your life
-feel lighter and happier at yourself

Watch the video here:

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Did you know that your emotions affect the proportions of hormones and chemicals your body makes? Did you know that when you feel calm, confident, and good that your immune system works more optimally? If your goal is healing from a physical health condition, addressing your "internal self" brings your body in an improved position for faster healing.  The more we can energetically "clean house" like wiping a corrupt hard drive and replace it with beneficial programs, the better you would be both physically and emotionally. If you need some additional support or considering working with Dr. Emily Chan ND, please feel free to reach out and see if this would be something that would be a good fit for you.